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Understanding the autonomic nervous system—the system that controls our automatic body functions—can be a game-changer in managing our emotions, stress, and relationships. This system operates on a spectrum of states, on which we can experience everything from feeling calm and connected to experiencing full shutdown. By demystifying and understanding these states, we can learn to navigate our emotional responses better and lead a more balanced life. The following list breaks down these fluid but distinct states and explains why it’s crucial to be aware of them.

1. Calm/Connected

In this state, we feel at peace and engaged with others. We’re able to communicate effectively, think clearly, and connect emotionally. It’s the foundation for healthy relationships and optimal functioning. When the nervous system is healthy, it is able to return here regularly throughout the day.

2. Vital Stress

Vital stress is a more active state that helps us respond to tasks and challenges. It’s characterized by increased energy and alertness—useful for productivity and creative endeavors. It can help us meet deadlines, solve problems, achieve goals, and collaborate with others as needed.

3. Agitation

When the body starts to detect bigger challenges, agitation sets in. We might feel irritable, restless, or on edge, making it hard to focus or relax. If we recognize this state early on, we may be able to use calming strategies to prevent escalation and prolonged dysregulation.

4. Fight/Flight

This state is our emergency response to perceived threats, preparing us to confront or flee danger. It can manifest in anxiety, panic, or aggression. Recognizing this state allows us to question if the threat is real and manage our reactions toward the threat.

5. Freeze

In overwhelming situations where fight or flight isn’t an option, we may “freeze” and feel stuck. If we notice this state coming on, we may be able to use strategies to re-engage with our surroundings.

6. Withdrawal

When prolonged stress or threat is perceived, we might withdraw, becoming numb, depressed, or hopeless. Knowing that this is our nervous system manifesting for survival can help us take any internal judgment or shame off ourselves.

7. Full Shutdown

In cases of extreme stress or threat, our bodies may shut down consciousness and other functions, kind of like a hibernation. This isn’t common, but it represents the far end of the spectrum of responses when there is a very serious perceived threat.

Recognizing these states is a vital skill for managing our lives. Here’s what this skill can do for you:

• Enhance emotional intelligence: Understanding our autonomic states helps us identify our emotions and respond to them constructively.
• Improve relationships: By knowing our states, we can communicate our needs more clearly and understand others better, leading to healthier interactions.
• Manage stress: Awareness allows us to implement strategies to return to a calm state, reducing the impact of stress on our health.

Autonomic awareness is like learning a new language—the language of our nervous system. Just like any language, you can become more fluent with practice. By tuning into our bodies and recognizing our autonomic states, we can navigate our emotional landscapes with greater ease and resilience. This isn’t about avoiding “negative” states; rather, it’s an opportunity to learn how to embrace the full spectrum of our human experience for a balanced, fulfilling life. With practice, this awareness becomes second nature and can transform our challenges into opportunities for growth and connection.

My new workbook, , will teach you not only how to tune into these autonomic states, but also how to reset your body to calm, better communicate with others, and even rediscover yourself.