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Social anxiety in children can be rather disruptive for a family, therefore having a few cognitive-behavioral activities and resources to quickly offer a family can be of great help to a clinician or school psychologist. Here are three ideas, based in cognitive science, written as a handout for parents, so you can simply , discuss it and then provide more individualized strategies as well.

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My child appears to be afraid of meeting new friends, going to dance class and even playing with new kids at the park. Why is that so, and how can I help?

Children with social anxiety are uncomfortable exploring new things. Rather than becoming excited by novel opportunities, new places, people and activities, they are more likely to be scared, agitated or withdrawn.

Here are three steps to helping your anxious child.

1. Help your anxious child by previewing what is expected in a new situation. Discuss who will be there, what you will be doing, whether or not you will be at the event with your child and what will happen when the event is completed.

• "We'll be going to Sam's house."
• "His mom, dad and brothers will be there."
• "We'll have a bar-b-que and play with toys."

2. Role-play the words and actions your child can use in a new situation. Practice with your child how to enter into the situation, and give him or her the words to feel powerful and strong.

• "When you get to the dance class, you will go in with Miss Clara, and Mommy will watch through
  the window."
• "I will stay there the entire time."
• "You'll be able to see me."

3. Ask your child what she imagines will happen. Discuss what they will see, what activities may take place and allay any worries or concerns they might have. Sometimes exploration can help them feel they can manage the new situation better. Draw it out, if you wish. Have your child tell you a story as you draw the pictures of what they describe. Research also shows that when we sing a story it can be easier to tell and remember.

Using your child’s “thinker,” the part of the brain used for decision making and problem solving, will help calm anxiety.

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, is a mom, pediatric psychologist, international educator and co-author with Wendy Young of . Lynne integrates neuroscience, nutrition, exercise and music research to enhance brain function and learning in children. For more “Think it Out” “Walk it Out” and “Play it Out” ideas visit .

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